Guest Submission: Listen Up, Ladies

Hello ladies! Chrissy, AKA Christine, has been pestering me to write a guest blog post for AAL, and I finally stomped my fingers across my keyboard in an attempt to create a blog post for y’all. Yes, I decided to type “y’all” in the last sentence – let’s move on to better things. In the third grade, I remember my teacher going off about how a person – probably a man, specifically – should never ask a lady her age. I think she went on to elaborate, but I don’t remember much of that. I found myself saying her words at some point last week. I assume the concept is out of respect for the woman. Why do you need to know my age anyway? Were you assuming that I use magical cream that keeps me from getting wrinkled? I barely remember to put lotion on my legs in the winter. Did you think I was 56? What are we assuming here? I don’t even know where I’m going with this, but really, unless I’m shouting from the rooftops, “I’m 21!” (which by the way, I would never do – mainly because I don’t like heights and have poor balance), don’t ask me my age, because for some reason or another, I may become insulted. That sounds rude, doesn’t it? I’m insulted because of a simple question. Maybe the real lesson here is not to assume things and simply wait for the woman to disclose her age. Is it acceptable for the woman to ask the man his age? I don’t know. Let’s stop asking questions. Moving onto a different topic, because I’m all over the place – let’s talk about clothes. Selena Gomez, I’m calling you out right now. If you’ve ever heard her song with A$AP Rocky, “Good For You” and didn’t cringe just a little bit, then maybe I’m all alone in this world. I’m a firm believer in the idea that YOU dress for YOU. You do not “dress up” for any man. You are your own woman. You’re wearing what you wear for YOU and for no one else. This also applies to makeup and how you do your hair, etc. Selena, you can wear that skin-tight dress for yourself. I don’t care where it ends up, but just wear it for yourself, girl. Good grief. This does not mean I don’t appreciate a compliment. You like my shirt? Why, thank you! You think my hair looks nice today? Thanks, it took me a while! Compliments are cool. They are actually awesome. You should always say thank you, even if you’re secretly thinking that you look like a hot mess, because clearly the person giving you the compliment doesn’t think that. Of course, you’re probably thinking, “Guest-Blogger Leah! What if still want to look nice on my upcoming night out with new boy I met?” Golly gee, please do, but keep in mind – you want to feel good – don’t worry about what he thinks. Because if you believe you look good, you’ll radiate with beauty and confidence. Plus, if he’s only worried about what you’re wearing, you should move on, let’s be real here. So, what if someone thinks differently about what you’re wearing because they don’t like it?! Do you feel comfortable in it? Do you feel beautiful? GOOD, BECAUSE YOU ARE. Once you think that to yourself and say, “Hey, self, I’m feeling good today, and I feel pretty, even though my hair may be messy right now and there’s secretly a hole in the armpit of my shirt.” That’s totally fine. You are worth the effort. You are you, and you can’t change that. So embrace it and dress for you and only you.

About The Author:

My name is Leah. I happen to know both of the regular bloggers, Johnna and Christine. I really enjoy sassy comments and tend to cry easily while laughing. I think puns are fabulous creations, rabbits are the cutest thing to grace this planet, and I get overly enthused about fonts. I'm a senior in college, but let's not talk about that because it's a depressing topic. The real world is so close! I also like taking the time to write, but I tend to have difficulty coming up with topics from time-to-time.

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